Movies to watch on a date

Having a movie evening with someone in any sort of romantic fashion requires a fair bit of commitment, so while it doesn’t make a particularly good first date, watching a movie together makes a great second or third date. I am by no means a movie expert, but I still occasionally get asked for movie recommendations suitable for dates, which is the inspiration for this article.

To be honest, the choice of movie is not all that important (although I will give some suggestions later in this article); it’s more about the time spent together and developing the interaction between the two of you. As long as the movie selection isn’t yawn-inducing, it should be fine. Having said that, in this article I will give a few things to think about regarding this topic, which conveniently ties in with how to make decisions on anything related to a date…

Choosing a movie for a date:

The reason watching a movie at home with someone you are romantically interested in is such a great idea in the early stages of dating is that it breeds familiarity and is an easy way to start building romantic intimacy and rapport, without too much pressure. Also, if you pick the right sort of movie, you can help curb the energy levels and emotional stimulus of the relationship, as explained in the following summary:

Worst movie choice = a movie that gets few emotional reactions out of its viewers.

Decent movie choice = a movie that gets lots of emotional reactions out of its viewers.

Best movie choice = a movie that gets lots of POSITIVE emotional reactions out of its viewers.

These may seem like obvious findings but if you think of all your favourite movies, you’ll be surprised how easily they spread across those three categories. For example, I’m a fan of documentary-style films, yet they are more for educational interest rather than tangible emotions.

When choosing a movie, think about whether it is going to incite positive emotions not only for yourself but also for the person you will be sharing the experience with.

How this relates to dates and activities in general:

It’s slightly counter-intuitive but any form of active emotional reaction, be it negative or positive, is actually better for creating attraction than neutral, passive or non-existent emotional reactions. Attraction is wholly built on the existence of emotional reactions – hence why “jerks” still attract women – yet a lot of men try to play it safe when it comes to dating. The reason for this is that pushing boundaries, even with positive intentions, comes with the risk of offending someone.

A confident and attractive person, although never intending to offend, is unapologetic for the way they are and the decisions they make.

Below is a crude diagram I have drawn to portray how attraction fluctuates with emotional input:

How emotions effect attraction

Obviously there is more to attraction than simply inducing emotions, but trying to make every activity you do as fun and stimulating as possible will definitely head you in the right direction.

Applying this to the topic of this article – movies to watch on a date – it is clear that not only should you choose a fun and stimulating movie, but you should also make it a fun and stimulating event as a whole!

Some personal movie recommendations:

There are so many classic films out there, with more being produced every year, that it would be impossible to give a concise list of all the best movies. Below are a few suggestions covering a number of common movie genres…

Horror movies: Saw franchise, Scream trilogy

The genre of movie that probably gets the most emotional reactions out of its viewers is the genre of horror movies. If you’re keen on choosing a horror movie, be aware that there are men and women out there who distinctly despise these sorts of movies and can manifest more than just casual fear within themselves. Make sure your date isn’t one of those people before sitting them down in front of a scary film!

Action/Thriller movies: Transformers, Kill Bill

Action and thriller movies follow a similar attitude to horror movies: people are generally either big fans or not interested in them. Either way, it’s hard to not get pumped up and excited whilst watching a classic thriller movie.

Comedy movies: Meet the Parents, Wedding Crashers, There’s Something about Mary

Comedy films are great for dates for obvious reasons. Laughing together is the best way to get into a happy state and enjoy yourselves.

There are hundreds of examples of comedy movies. Take a look at online movie review websites to discover new releases and highly-rated recommendations.

Feel-good movies: Forrest Gump, The Princess Bride, When Harry met Sally, Disney movies

Some men pretend not to enjoy movies like these, possibly to try and seem macho. The truth is that it’s very hard not to enjoy any of the movies I have listed above. They are very unisex and always leave viewers smiling with heart-warming plots and cheesy endings.

Sexual movies: Shortbus

If your new relationship has not become sexual yet and you would like it to, then watching a sexual-orientated movie together will get you both suitably aroused. I would use this with caution though, making sure you know for sure that this sort of thing won’t offend your date. Whilst the above movie does have a gripping storyline, it contains many scenes of an adult nature.

Childhood nostalgia: Labyrinth, The Land Before Time

Obviously this category varies between generations but assuming you are dating someone within a similar age-range to you, watching movies from your childhood is a great way of developing a closeness to someone. It’s like jumping back into your past together and sharing memories.

Do you have any recommendations to add to these categories?

Final thoughts:

A few extra things to think about are, as mentioned in ‘The perfect first date’, less emphasis should be put on the fact it is a date and more should be put on two people simply hanging out and having fun. An activity such as watching a movie together is merely a secondary element to advancing the relationship both emotionally and physically. You don’t want to be sitting there watching a movie in silence, no matter how great it is!

With all this being said, a great default choice for a movie if you don’t know your date very well yet, as with any date activity, is to choose something YOU will enjoy. Positivity is contagious and if you are having fun and enjoying yourself it will rub off on whoever you are with. 🙂

Much love,


25 replies
  1. Sally
    Sally says:

    I’m glad you added disney movies to your list. My perfect man is one who is not embarrassed to snuggle up, tub of ice cream in hand and watch sleeping beauty teehee 😀

    • Samuel McCrohan
      Samuel McCrohan says:

      I know it’s a crime but I haven’t actually seen Sleeping Beauty yet!!

      I’ve just managed to get a copy of what I think is the best Disney movie to date though… The Rescuers!! Hopefully that redeems me slightly! 🙂

      Thanks for your comment,

  2. Dean
    Dean says:

    I know not everyones taste but I love watching teen movies with girls. It lets me know if they are fun or not. “sex drive” and “role models” are my 2 favourites that I watched recently with girls.

    • Samuel McCrohan
      Samuel McCrohan says:

      Hey Dean,

      Yes I’m a fan of teen-movies too. In fact, Heidi and I actually watched ‘Sex Drive’ just the other week together… My Mother happened to be round for the first half an hour or so, which was slightly awkward given the contents of the film! 🙂 Hilarious movie though!

      I’ve seen trailers etc for ‘Role Models’ so I’ll be sure to check it out sometime.

      Thanks for the comment,

  3. Jill Jones
    Jill Jones says:

    It’s A Wonderful Life,
    12 Angry Men,
    On The Waterfront.
    I like my oldies : )

    • Samuel McCrohan
      Samuel McCrohan says:

      Thanks for the recommendations Jill!

      I haven’t seen any of those films, although I have vaguely heard of each of them… obviously a bit before my time! 🙂

      I’ll be sure to check them out if I can get my hands on some copies.


  4. delicate flower
    delicate flower says:

    I’m with Sally.. Disney- maybe The Sword and the Stone, and pint of Ben and Jerry’s … one spoon, feed each other! then maybe you forget the movie and concentrate on the possibilities of using the ice cream?

    I’m going to be thinking about what some of my favorite movies might be and get back to you! Great post.

  5. Sammy
    Sammy says:


    My name is Sam too! 😉 I’ve come across your site while looking for dating advice and I was just wondering, whilst I appreciate you are straight, whether you think that the advice you give can apply to gay relationships? Unfortunately there isn’t too much out there specifically for gay men but seeing as your site has less of a “guys picking up girls” bent to it than most, I thought it would be worth asking.

    Thanks in advance

    Sammy 🙂

    • Samuel McCrohan
      Samuel McCrohan says:

      Hey Sammy, cool name! 🙂

      This is actually something I have thought about a lot over the years.

      Whilst a great deal of the principles are the same regardless of gender or sexuality (the principles of attraction are universal for example), there are obviously a fair few differences, most notably the masculine/feminine roles in the relationship. It is something I have studied briefly but as I have no personal experience of gay relationships, I can’t claim to be an expert on them.

      It’s a shame there aren’t any decent resources for this kind of advice but if you have any specific questions or topics then I would be happy to try and elaborate how gay relationships would differ from straight relationships. 🙂


  6. LatinLover
    LatinLover says:

    Personally, I never watch movies on dates. There’s always the risk you go and see the “wrong” movie. I once took a date to watch “American History X.” The car ride home was pretty stilted after I made jokes about biting curbs.

    • Samuel McCrohan
      Samuel McCrohan says:

      Ha I can imagine! 🙂

      Yes I think it’s a lot safer, at least in the early stages to watch movies at home, with a good idea of what kind of film you’re in for!

      Thanks for the comment,

    • Samuel McCrohan
      Samuel McCrohan says:

      Hey Henry,

      Thanks for the link… I checked it out and Jodie makes some interesting comparisons. I wouldn’t say I agree with all the personality traits linked to certain genres but a lot of them are spot-on! 🙂

      Good point; there should never be too many hard and fast rules when it comes to dating. Funnily enough though, putting too much emphasis on a date in general (or ‘liking’ your date too much early on) can actually have the reverse than desired effect, so it’s definitely best to keep everything as open as possible like you say.

      Thanks for your comment,

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  8. tamm
    tamm says:

    i have a day planed with a girl, and to find out we have crushed on each other in the past. she spotted me one day in walmart after not seeing me for 3 years, she was getting her nails done so we talked and she said that she was about to go looking for me around the store cause she was apparently trying to get my attention. In a matter of a couple weeks we have talked online and somethings got ” steamy 🙂 ” in our conversations. So we set up a day for us to hang out on a sunday where she has that day off of work and i dont know what the best plan is for movies or inexpensive activities for us to do. i know she likes action packed films and horror movies and absolutly hates chick flicks which is a plus. what movies should i get for the big day. And or what inexpensive activities would you suggest.?

    • Samuel McCrohan
      Samuel McCrohan says:

      Hi Tammy,

      That’s a great story and it is crazy how people can pop up when you least expect it.

      Obviously a lot of my suggestions would be based around how much comfort you have built with one another. If things have started to get “steamy” during the online chats then the date can clearly progress any way you want it to, so make sure you lead the interactions and activities when you meet up.

      As for specific things to do, as I mentioned in the article ‘The perfect first date’, the best dates are ones where you can interact freely, have uninterrupted fun with each other and have the opportunity to be in physical contact with each other.

      If there is a funky suburb near where you live, simply take her there and explore, then perhaps go to a nice bar/coffee shop. After that you can mention something cool back at yours. It doesn’t have to be a movie, although you can use some of the ones recommended above if you do want to watch a movie. You can simply ‘hang out’, perhaps watch some funny YouTube videos and make sure you are physically escalating if that is the way it is heading. Don’t just wait for something to happen if you want it to!

      Obviously you can plan a more elaborate date if you want to but it really isn’t necessary at this stage. Getting to know each other and having fun can be done with even the simplest of activities or no activity at all so to speak.

      Let me know how it turns out, 🙂


  9. Steve
    Steve says:

    The Wackness is a cool film for a date, also I think some girls (and guys) might find shortbus a bit of an uncomfortable watch! make sure if your thinking of watching this with someone check it over first just to make sure you think your date will be OK with it as it’s pretty graphic, good film though.

    • Samuel McCrohan
      Samuel McCrohan says:

      Hey Steve,

      I haven’t heard of The Wackness before but I just read a description of the movie and it sounds entertaining so thanks for recommending it. 🙂

      I totally agree with using caution when watching a sexually graphic movie. One thing I would say though is that pushing the boundaries is a good way to find where those boundaries are.

      I’ve watched Shortbus as a date several times and I would usually say “a friend recommended it”. This sort of alleviated me from any blame if she really dislikes it, which will be clear very early on if I recall the first scene correctly haha. 🙂

      Thanks for commenting,


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