Why porn is bad and evil

With the advent of the internet, pornography has become a much more significant pastime in modern society and although it is still not completely accepted by older generations, its dominance as an industry is at an all time high.

My first introduction to porn was when my older sister’s male friend sneakily bought a friend and me an adult magazine as teenagers and I am not ashamed to admit that I viewed a fair amount of material throughout my youth. This is true for a large proportion of males, although not so many females it seems. As a result of studying a wealth of sexual practices and techniques as well as developing my own sexuality, I have come to notice a lot of detrimental factors that come from watching too much porn…

Me next to a giant sign outside a club in Munich

Porn prior to sex:

As porn becomes more and more accessible to youngsters, it’s likely that they will have watched porn prior to having sex for the first time. The point is that porn actually acts as an educational resource for a lot of teenagers these days. With sex education in schools being extremely limited and many parents finding sexual topics too taboo to discuss with their kids, porn becomes an interesting and useful introduction to sex for a young teenager. The outcome of this is that these people are not necessarily being taught the best preparation and attitude towards sexual fulfilment.

Porn creates an unrealistic view of sex:

The problem with men watching too much porn is that it creates an unrealistic view of sex. Nonsense porn storylines aside (such as the plumber coming round and having his way with the bored housewife), porn still promotes a distinct lack of connection required for sex. This is one reason why men will much more readily sleep with an attractive female stranger than vice versa. As a general rule, females have not been exposed to so much pornography and therefore this is one reason why women require a lot more of a connection with a man before sleeping with him. Have you ever heard a woman defiantly claim she will never sleep with a man on a first date? What she actually means with that statement is that she won’t sleep with a man whom she doesn’t feel sufficiently comfortable with.

Porn focuses on limited senses:

Another problem with porn is that it teaches men to focus purely on their visual and audible senses, as that is all that porn can cater for.

Real, meaningful sex – more so in a long-term relationship but still relevant for things such as one-night stands – is about ALL the senses, most importantly touch and the emotional connection between both parties. I never knew quite how good sex was until I learnt to incorporate everything on a physical and spiritual level into the act.

Porn decreases your sex drive:

A decrease in sex drive is not always the direct result of watching porn but more so the act of masturbating frequently to porn. A lot of men have trouble lasting long enough during sexual intercourse because they’ve trained themselves for quick gratification. Most men who masturbate to porn are more interested in getting their moment of pleasure over and done with as quickly as possible. Over time this conditions their bodies to always react that way.

Further on from this, porn actually desensitises viewers to sex, especially when you incorporate more explicit forms of pornography. This in turn will decrease one’s sex drive towards women and actually detract from trying to find a suitable mate (why would they need real sex when they can emulate it at home?)

I’d be very interested to hear other people’s opinions on this subject, as it seems to be something that is rarely discussed. I would also be extremely interested in any females willing to give their honest views and experiences regarding pornography, as I would hate to think that this is purely a male issue. 🙂

Much love,

Samuel